Why join a mothers group?
A mothers group can be a good way to check in with other moms, get advice, share how you’re feeling, and build a support network.
According to a recent survey, 37 percent of our site moms belong to a mothers group. And the groups are fairly large – 52 percent said their group has 10 or more women in it.
How to find a moms group
A lot depends on where you live and what you’re looking for in your group.
- Some larger groups may advertise, so check listings in local papers and websites.
- Look online for local groups. our site also has local groups (organized by state and world region) to help you meet moms in your area.
- Ask at local libraries, community centers, and churches and other religious organizations. Many have resources for new parents.
- Talk to other parents at the playground or grocery store and ask if they know of any good groups.
- If you have special needs or concerns, try contacting organizations that cater to your situation. Whether you're parenting multiples, have postpartum depression, raising a child on your own, or caring for a preemie, these groups may be able to refer you to a specialized local or online group.
- Hospitals can be good resources. Laine Ehmann delivered her first child at Good Samaritan Hospital in San Jose, California. Its new moms group was a good starting point. "The sessions were huge, but a group of us kind of bonded and then would meet weekly at our homes for smaller playgroups," she says.
Connect with other moms online
If you can't find like-minded mothers where you live, or you just enjoy getting support and advice from others online, try a community like the one we've created at BabyCenter.
- At the our site Community, you can join a birth club. These are organized by your baby's birth date to help you connect with other moms who have babies the same age as yours.
- BabyCenter’s local groups are organized by state and world region. Many of the mothers who've met on our site and live near each other have gone on to form groups in the "real world."
- If you or your baby have specialized health concerns, online groups may be the best way to find support, especially If you don’t live in a large city.
- Once you’ve found a few online groups, spend some time checking them out. You'll know in an hour whether you feel connected to the women there or not.
Start your own moms group
Many in-person groups meet weekdays during the day. That's fine if you're on maternity leave, a stay-at-home mom, or even a part-time worker, but not everyone can meet at those times.
If you prefer a real-world group but are having trouble finding one that meets evenings or weekends, consider starting your own group.
- If you work in a large organization, you might be able to set up a moms group with some of your co-workers.
- If your child is in daycare, try getting together with some of the other parents on weekends.
- Choose a theme to help you find new friends who share your other interests. Lisa Eppler started her own group in Austin that catered to new and experienced moms with similar schedules – and a love of books.
What about dads groups?
Though parent groups are more likely to mom-focused, dads need advice and encouragement too. Men are less likely to share their feelings or ask for help, so having regular get-togethers can be key. Some moms groups may welcome dads, and there are a growing number of dads groups as well. Look for them the same way you’d look for moms groups.